Situational Sexual Ethics: What Tristan Thompson does next matters
I’m sorry/not sorry: The idea that a modern woman, old enough to vote, some 60 years after the Pill still does not know how her vagina works, perplexes the man in me and should offend the “hear me roar” women in you. Tweet
Highlights
High-status men are under sustained sexual assault by “seed thieves.”
Tristan, this is not your first Baby-Mama mistake. Three strikes and you're poor.
At present, men and women are not reproductive equals.
Become the handsome face of a movement of male sexual responsibility. No pain and only gain.
Woe unto the man who gets a woman pregnant.
The court of public opinion and the court of law both have a default setting saying that in paternity suits, the man is morally and financially responsible — ie, at fault. “It takes two to tango”…“he should have known better”…“pay up” are all to be expected.
High-status men are under sustained sexual assault by “seed thieves!”
Just ask Tristan Thompson, aging basketball star of the Sacramento Kings and former husband of Khloé Kardashian. Tristan ended 2021 with the un-welcome birth of a child with his former physical trainer. Quick catch up:
- Things got biblical between the two.
- The trainer got pregnant.
- Tristan didn’t want to have another baby-mama on the payroll, so he offered her $60,000 to abort the baby.
- The personal trainer decided not only to have the child but also to move from Texas (were the child was conceived) to California so she could get a better paternity judgment.
Neither of them look good in the telling but I think Tristan is being played. High-status men are under sustained sexual assault by “seed thieves.”
Let’s get real for a few:
As a society we don’t have a problem with men and women having sex for pleasure’s sake. The “every sperm is sacred” moral majority is today smaller than a moral minority. It would not even qualify as a sect.
Men and women also agree that men with erections don’t make good choices. The average erection takes 4.5 ounces of blood, maybe more for Tristan, since he’s 6’9″. And it has to come from somewhere. My guess that its comes from his other head. This phenomenon explains men’s lack of judgment when aroused.
Ladies, this is not an excuse. It’s just a fact.
At present, men and women are not reproductive equals.
Men don’t have access to a Pill that gives them a similar level of protection from unwanted, unintended pregnancy. What’s in the lab is not promising unless you want to look like Kaitlyn Jenner—Khloe’s other mom. The reality of the Pill or long-acting reversible contraception is (LARCs) is the social-sexual norm for women. At present, men and women are not reproductive equals.
Now, if a man meets a woman, and things are getting hot—not Frank’s Red Hot à la Drake — and the man is rounding third base and the third-base coach isn’t signaling to hold. In this analogy, the woman that the guy is looking to slide into and score with is the third base coach. Is it reasonable to assume that the woman you’re sliding into is a responsible adult who knows how her vagina works and is prepared to played the game?
If she’s not protected, she should be waving her hands to hold up at third!
A woman—even in the heat of the moment—can tell you that she is not protected but you are welcome to assume the risk and score at home. How is our stiff dick without a conscience going to respond? Smart money is on “not well.” Chances are that he will modify his behavior slightly, taking the old “pull out and pray” approach. Only slightly better odds, but at least the guy was given the choice to remain safe at third and live to play another day.
But did Tristan’s latest baby-mama—who was his personal trainer—offer him that choice? I doubt it.
If the third-base coach does not signal that the catcher is unprotected, she is not giving valuable information to the runner that, in a modern, sexually advanced and permissive social sport, he is entitled to know. Playing chlamydia roulette is one thing; getting an unprotected woman pregnant is a different sport entirely. For a graduate-level lesson in this kind of thing, listen to Prof. Phil Rizzuto’s lecture in “Paradise by the Dashboard Light.”
I can hear my mother’s scared-straight, “it takes two tango” mom-mantra, but doesn’t a dance partner have an obligation to her partner? For example, if a man or a woman knowingly has AIDS or herpes and says nothing, that’s not a good tango partner. It ought be criminal not to say something.
So sorry, Mom. Sorry, ladies, I think the same can and ought to be said if a woman is ovulating and not on the Pill and says nothing.
Playing chlamydia roulette is one thing; getting an unprotected woman pregnant is a different sport entirely
Support on this point is consistent with our modern sexual principles, but it does not show up in the polling. We live in a “man’s at fault” world. If a woman doesn’t like the oops! outcome, she can get an abortion. The rights of a man today are like the rights of yesteryear’s women, facing the consequences for a decision that the other sex alone had the sole power to make. I guess turnabout is fair play.
I’m sorry/not sorry: The idea that a modern woman, old enough to vote, some 60 years after the Pill still does not know how her vagina works, perplexes the man in me and should offend the “hear me roar” women in you.
Quite frankly, we are infantilizing women and this is an offense to the women’s movement and the very idea of empowerment. Women are getting a wet-clit pass; and men are paying for a stiff dick that has no conscience consequence. For a man to “assume” that he is dealing with an adult and not an empowered, infantilized woman, makes an ass out of men and women. On this point, sexually liberated women do a Nancy Reagan impersonation and “Just say, ‘No.'”
From 15 until death—a man has the material to make a baby and is therefore responsible for pregnancies. So what is a man to do?
Harvesting your swimmers—getting them tested—and storing them under lock and key in a freezer, then getting a no-scalpel reversible vasectomy is the only real solution at hand.
Tristan, this is not your first Baby-Mama mistake. Three strikes and you’re poor. Become the handsome face of a movement of male sexual responsibility. No pain and only gain.
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